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Social Engagement

We live in a social world. Interpersonal communication is essential to developing healthy relationships at school, home and work. In fact, our sense of safety in the world depends on healthy social engagement. When we feel safe, we can participate genuinely with others and be open and willing to accept new ideas. Without a sense of safety, our self-preservation and motivation to get through the current situation kicks in. We become closed off to others, oppositional and short sighted.

Children and Social Engagement Issues

Kids who struggle to interact appropriately with classmates, teachers and other adults are uncomfortable in new situations, in crowds, or when the environment is changing and unfamiliar. When eye contact is avoided, it is often interpreted as rude, uncaring or awkward. Despite desperate efforts to belong, they are unable to connect to friends or strangers.

Adults and Social Engagement Issues

Adults with poor social engagement misinterpret the meaning in conversation and are themselves misunderstood. The back-and-forth flow of conversation may not be easy for them. This damages relationships and makes work and social events uncomfortable and unproductive.

How does iLs help Social Engagement?

Dreampad Sleep


The gentle stimulation of the Dreampad’s bone conduction calms the nervous system and induces better sleep. After a night of restful sleep, feeling refreshed and alert, you will find that relating to family, friends and colleagues is easy a pleasure and mutually satisfying.


Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP)

Social engagement is a central target of the SSP. The Polyvagal Theory explains how the SSP improves communication through voice inflection, deep listening, and improved facial expression to promote social engagement and the feeling of safety.

iLs for Professionals

Focus System

Better input leads to better output. By improving the integration of sensory input, processing conversation takes less effort, behavior is better controlled, and being present with another is easier.


VoicePro System

Speaking up, responding when spoken to, answering questions in groups are especially difficult if you are naturally shy, sensitive or withdrawn. The audiovocal feedback of the VoicePro System allows the listener to hear their voice more clearly in order to speak with more confidence. For those who do not like the sound of their own voice, the VoicePro enables them to practice speaking with a more natural, resonant timbre to their voice, making it much more engaging.


Music, Multisensory Input & Movement
Brain & Body Organization
My Best Self

All iLs systems come with supervision, either from your current iLs-trained therapist or from an iLs-employed coach who can work remotely with clients who don’t have an iLs provider in their area. You can find an iLs Provider here or contact us to locate someone in your area.

The goal is not a quick fix; it’s lasting change.

Case Studies

Social Engagement Difficulties

“Client comes in happy to do experiment. Therapist notes that she is really enjoying doing the intervention.”


“Every therapist we’ve seen — they have all told us to be looking at residential treatment facilities… I no longer worry for him. My worries for him are much more in line with what every parent worries about for their child.”

– Kimberly McRae, Mother

We transform lives of children and adults everyday.

  • Our son has completed the Focus System program and has been attending the after school/summer sessions. We have seen a lot of changes and progress in our son as a result of these combined programs. His nonverbal skills have improved and his verbal fluency continues to increase by leaps and bounds. He is learning to trust others which is shown by his willingness to take cues from others when he is uncertain about things. He enjoys accomplishing tasks with a partner and he also watches what other people/kids do and thereby incorporates more detail and challenges into the tasks he is doing.

    JT from Canada, parent
  • We have tried so many other things with minimal help – we just never got to the core of the issue – the SSP got to the core.

    Amy R. Parent

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